Before Mark died we spent almost 30 years working and playing in our Love Laboratory™.

We figured marriage was a juicy, erratic, erotic caldron; a laboratory to learn how to love ourselves, each other, the kids, other people and the planet. I thought my Love Laboratory™ was gone, that it died with him. But that’s not true. I still have deep relationships with many people and an ongoing relationship with life. And I’ve been amazed at the ongoing but different relationship with Mark. No, I’m not making it up; it’s mind-blowing to have a partner on the other side.

The dictionary defines a laboratory as, “a place equipped for experimental study…or for testing; a place providing opportunity for experimentation, observation or practice in a field of study.” In this definition, “field” refers to an area of study, like work or relationships or communication. I want to use the concept of field in another way as well; the info-energy atmosphere in which everything swims.

Junior High science classes introduced me to a structured, academic world of “laboratory.” Even if I came up with the wrong answer I learned to give curiosity free reign.

When lab partners work toward solving the same problem but come up with different approaches or results, things get interesting. But that’s what happens in relationships – they’re really laboratories!

Life teaches that repeatable, measureable scientific investigation needs to intertwine with other ways of knowing; non-linear intuitive knowing and non-local experience.

We have fields of study (topics) and we also have “fields” that we can’t see but we know they’re there because we can see their effects. For example, the existence of the gravity field (G-field) becomes evident when a toddler stands and falls a hundred times while she discovers her balance; while she plays in the G-field and discovers her relationship with gravity.

From the moment we are born we learn to navigate and negotiate our relationship to several energy fields such as; gravity (G-field), electro-magnetism (EM-field), and akashic, or zero point field (A-field)which is the background information field that interconnects all things in the universe.

Permit me to add an unscientific yet obvious field we all know about – the love field or what I call the L-field. I’m not talking about sentimental feelings; I’m talking about cohesive energy. Science tells us that heart energy radiates outward 3 to 15 feet depending on our mood, thoughts and well-being. So let’s call this energy radius our L-field.

Trick of the Trade: This week tune into your L-field. Knowing that your field begins deep within your heart, use your sensory awareness to feel the outer edges of your L-field. This takes some practice, and that’s what a Love Laboratory™ is all about. If you can’t actually feel this energy yet, begin by imagining it. For now do not place your attention on analyzing or evaluating the quality of what you are radiating. Instead, be aware that everyone and everything within your L-field is swimming in and being effected by the energy circulating within your body, just as every cell and atom of your body is being bathed by the same energy.

Let me know how your lab experiments go. Sometimes they’re quite surprising! ~ Karen