Fierce Love
How does it work to be fierce and loving at the same time? It’s a paradox to be sure but it makes perfect sense to our heart(s) when we see the balance it brings us.
First, we must be careful not to confuse Fierceness with Hostility. They are very different and distinct.
Our natural, warm, instinct for freedom, assertion and expression as well as the desire to defend our life and others is in our genes, but hostility is learned in families. Early in life we can learn how to shame, repress, ignore, ridicule, turn our back, bully, make nasty remarks, pretend, go passive, and give mixed messages through sarcasm. As scholar and poet Robert Bly says, “The instinctual heat of fierceness we possess at birth; the coldness of hostility we learn in the family.“
Fierceness has to do with an ability to show up authentically, not an ability to overpower or oppress. Very often we learned to be “good girls” and “good boys” and either became afraid of assertiveness (if being “good” worked) or we abuse aggression (if no matter what we did we were never “good” enough).
Everyone needs heat/vitality of fierceness at times. Not all heat is anger…sometimes it’s passionate LIFE.
For example:
- Friends and colleagues need fierceness to honestly and calmly tell each other their needs.
- Adolescents, moving from childhood toward adulthood, need a healthy sense of fierceness to navigate the pull of peer pressure.
- Parents need fierceness every day to navigate modern entitlement demands of their children.
- Lovers need fierceness to show up as their unique self, transforming fear of abandonment into the strength of authentic vulnerability and commitment.
- Creative people in every walk of life need fierceness to dream big and take their dream into the world.
This learning circle is for you, if you’re in a committed relationship or if you are looking to be in one. Getting love “right” takes skill, information, support, a sense of humor and willingness to grow.
Are you ready for valuable and eye-opening straight talk?
Do you want to get more out of your love relationships?
Desire the secret to drama-free communication?
Be smart…don’t wait until you’re “at the end of your rope” before you up the love quotient in your life. And if “everything is fine” this is a perfect time to get a deeper love connection with yourself or partner.
3 hours Saturday, 3 hours Sunday…plenty of time to learn and interact…plenty of time to be alone…
When: February 12 & 13th
Time: 10am – 1pm Saturday and Sunday
Cost: $300 per person
Purchase your seat in the circle now, as we’re limited to 10 fierce loving people.
Using our Sign up button below, you can sign up as an individual or a couple with the drop down menu!
We’re excited to have you part of the circle!
With a Fierce Loving Heart,
If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to contact me directly at (480) 998-8455 or contact@iaie-connect.com.